The Grad School Dagger

When you’re trying to (a) focus on grad school, (b) make enough money to support yourself and pay for said grad school, and (c) manage the stress of pandemic life alone, among other things, the reminder that you spent 2.5 years of your life working Full Time so your former spouse could focus on grad […]

Psalm of Lament

How long, O Lord, must I wait in isolation? How long must I hide from the company of those I love? Until I wither into nothingness? Until I fade out of existence? Until I myself am just a distant memory, somebody that somebody else used to know? But this isolation is not the darkest place […]

Scene Of The Crime

Eleven years ago today, I got married. Four years ago today, I faced my first January 9th as a newly single, brokenhearted person. Today – for the first time – I returned to the scene of the crime.

Forget-The-Year

I don’t have the patience for New Year’s Resolutions this year. Or maybe patience is the wrong word: energy. Tolerance. F*cks to give. So when I saw this post by Maggie Smith turning the entire concept on its head, I exhaled a loud “AMEN.” The origin of the word resolution, Smith explains, can be traced […]

Captain’s Log 2020

Captain’s Log, Earthdate 30.12.2020. We have almost completed a full revolution around the sun of the Earth’s star system. When we began this mission almost 365 Earth days ago, it seemed routine; hopeful even. There was little indication of the nature of the challenges we would face. In what now retrospectively seems like foreshadowing, I […]

Quarried Light

“When you come through a phase of pain or isolation or suffering, the light that is given to you at the end of that is a very precious light”, writes John O’Donohue (my bold/underline), whose words have been my companion these last couple of months. This idea of a light earned through hardship, isolation and […]

Four Long Years (not an election post)

Four long years And I don’t know where I’ve gone But I’m awake now… Life goes on -Bronze Radio Return Four long years ago my life changed forever. It had nothing to do with the US election, but the date will always be reminiscent of that moment in my timeline when everything changed. Four years […]

A Pre-Birthday Pandemic Confession

You may or may not know this about me, but my primary love language is quality time. Spending time with people I care about, whether on some epic adventure or doing nothing at all, is how I best express my love to others, and feel loved in return. It means a lot to me to […]

Emotional Quicksand

You’ve probably been stuck in quicksand before, even if you didn’t realize that’s what it was. Maybe you’re stuck in it right now. I heard the expression “emotional quicksand” on the radio last night – right alongside another resonating term “doomscrolling” – and realized even as I learned about its existence that I was already […]

Do Better Day

A modest proposal to re-imagine Canada Day as Do Better Day. How do we make Canada a better place… for everyone? How do we break the moulds of racial injustice in Canada… today? Like any big important thing: we do it One Thing at a time.